Why does it seem that the prettier a girl is, the more insecure she is? The prettiest girls I know describe themselves as fat and ugly.
I've attempted to wear make-up before, but I've noticed that it makes me very insecure and very obsessive compulsive. Whenever I do my hair I am always afraid of how it looks. When not in front of a mirror I imagine that my make-up is smeared and that my hair looks ratty. So I just gave up. I don't wear make-up and I don't do my hair, and I've never felt more secure about my appearance. I figure that without make-up I'm alright looking, so if love is even partially blind I have nothing to worry about. I prefer to be myself instead of all made-up.
I've watched many girls obsess over their appearance, everywhere, all the time. It makes me wonder if perhaps many women are also haunted by the feeling that their make-up is smeared and their hair is a mess. Perhaps the prettiest girls are the ones who take the most time on their appearance and are the most obsessive over it. Maybe their looks are only partially their parents, and mostly an outward expression of their own insecurity.
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You're exactly right; if you take that much time with your appearance you're holding yourself to a standard. Some women get in the mentality of, 'Well, this is the best I look! If I look so good, why aren't people paying attention to me? I must not be that attractive after all.' It's silly, but true.
Partially, I agree with on why girls are insecure. But a lot of them just say bad stuff so the boy can tell them "No, you're gorgeous!"
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - I think the reason girls say that is because they are insecure--they need the guy to tell them that.
I don't think that it's the prettiest girls that are the most insecure--I think it's just that people are the most surprised when pretty girls are insecure. If you meet someone who is not very attractive, it doesn't shock you to hear that they feel bad about themselves--you expect them to think the same thing you do about their appearance. But if you meet someone who is really attractive, you don't see them as having a reason to feel unattractive or undesirable, so when they do you are are like, "what's wrong with you?" I think that most women are insecure, because I think that most *people* are insecure.
I wear makeup when I am going out and I want to look nice. I like the way I look without makeup on, so I feel like when I do put it on, it's like the icing on the cake. However, the last guy I dated actually liked me better without makeup on, which was weird to me (and actually hard to do (because I like wearing makeup!), especially when we went out to dinner together), but it was pretty cool because I never felt like I had to impress him.