One thing that has surprised me is how quickly some people throw around the word "Love". I've talked to random people on the internet for five minutes about the weather and they suddenly say "I love you". To this I respond "No you don't". I wonder if guys think that that's just what a girl wants to hear. "I love you" is the last thing I want a guy to say, right before he proposes to me, right before we get married, and right before he (or I) dies. I never want to be told "I love you" just because they think that that's what I want to hear.
If love was money then how much money would you have it represent? When people say, "I love you" all the time, every day, to what adds up to many people then doesn't that devalue the worth of their "love"? Sure it would be nice if everyone would love everyone, but is any human really capable of truly loving everyone? If you believe in "one true love" then then answer is no.
But then again there are many kinds of love, there is family love, lover love, friend love, country love etc. So lets stick to the "love" that you tell that person you've been dating for however long. Count up all the people you've told that you love (not family, or friends this is lovers). How many people is it? If hypothetically you valued your love at 1 million dollars and you have told 10 people "I love you" then your "love" is now only worth 100,000 dollars. This is not to say that you love your future loves less than your first loves. It simply means that you value the word "Love" less. But I guess that also depends on what you define love as, and whether or not you say "love" when you really don't mean it.
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So true! It really bugs me that people throw around the word love
like it's nothing. Love is a major thing to me and I hate it when
people say it, knowing that they don't really mean it. I've said it to
exactly one person (other than my students, and only because he said it
first), and I knew that neither of us meant it. It was my first
"boyfriend" in high school, and he told me he loved me exactly 22
seconds after I agreed to be his girlfriend. I was shocked, but I felt
mean not saying it back to him, so I went along with all the obligatory
"I love you toos" at the end of every phone call. After that though, I
decided I was done with it--so the next guy that told me he loved me, I
told him "no you don't." I liked him intensely, but I was not in love
with him and he was not in love with me. Do any of us know what love
really means?
How would you define love (the romantic kind)?